Iron Sharpens Iron

I use to be a VERY controlling fearful person. Now don’t get me wrong those tendency can still pop up now and then because I walked that road for many many years. It is easy to slip back into old ways if I am not careful. That is why I think it is so vital to have people in my life that aren’t afraid to speak the truth in love to me. You know that tough love. My husband is one of those people. For years I resisted anything he would say due to my own fears and my desire to want to be in control of everything and everyone. I was prideful and thought I had it all figured out. Well that didn’t get me very far in life. I have learned the value of having people speak the truth in love to me over the years. It isn’t always easy to hear…the truth sometimes hurts, but if I remain humble and teachable then it tends to always penetrate my heart in a way that causes me to want to change or push ahead. I have also had the privilege of having close friends at different times in my life, that I truly trusted and respected, who would do the exact same thing. I am so grateful for those friends and my husband. Iron sharpens irons and I need them in my life to keep me sharp.

I was sharing a story yesterday about when I opened up my massage therapy business in Missouri in 2006. I ran into some road blocks that potentially could have caused me to not open up my business out of my home…which I felt very called to do. In frustration I called one of “those friends” who I trusted and shared my frustrations with her and do you know what she said? She proceeded to tell me while I was crying, “if you are going to let some old man who is the president of your homeowners association stop you from doing what you feel you are called to do, then you aren’t the woman I thought you were.” Wow. That was some tough love right there, but it was exactly what I needed to hear to light a fire under my tail to get me moving. And you know what, I called that “old man” and proceeded to become a thorn in his side…in a respectful way. He knew I wasn’t going to back down and he and the board members approved and voted my business in pretty quickly after that phone call.

I could have easily been offended by her bold statement. I could have felt sorry for myself and thought poor me but I didn’t. What good would that have done for my business and myself. I received what she had to say because she was my friend. I trusted and respected her and she saw something in me that apparently I couldn’t see at the time and she knew at that moment that I needed that bold push.

I am not saying to receive tough love from anyone and everyone. Lord knows that would be a mess. I am encouraging you to receive from the people that you truly trust, love and respect. People that have some sound wisdom and that truly know you. Receive from the people that believe in you and love you.

Stay humble and teachable my friends and allow iron to sharpen iron.

Be Love Give Love

About the Author


Abby Lewis has a degree in Health and Wellness and her massage therapy license. She is the author of Living Still and producer of A Breath~in Stillness. Her life’s work is to passionately encourage others to experience transformation of spirit, mind and body by learning to practice “living still.”