How to NOT be Critical

being critical

It is better to be supportive and encouraging, then harsh and critical.

Definition of criticism. 1.act of criticizing: a spoken or written opinion or judgment of what is wrong or bad about somebody or something 2.disapproval: spoken or written opinions that point out one or more faults of somebody or something.

The words that stand out to me are disapproval and judgment. I know that is how I feel when someone is criticizing me. I feel they don’t approve of me or the way I am feeling lead to do things. I feel a sense of judgment from them…that I can never measure up to their standards.

An example…When a daughter calls her mom to tell her that her son/daughter accidently got burnt and then proceeds to tell her mom the story of how….the last thing that mother needs to hear is all the ways that it is her fault or what she did wrong or I guess you learned a lesson. Do you not think that mother’s heart is in enough pain and agony from seeing her own child hurting. Do you not think she is already blaming herself and thinking if only this or that? What that mother needs is love, comfort, encouragement and to be built up in that very moment.

Why are we so quick to criticize and judge people?

We need to think before we speak….especially to our spouses and children. Make sure your words are coming across as encouraging and supportive, instead of harsh and critical. Speak the truth in love my friends.

Be Love Give Love~abby


About the Author


Abby Lewis has a degree in Health and Wellness and her massage therapy license. She is the author of Living Still and producer of A Breath~in Stillness. Her life’s work is to passionately encourage others to experience transformation of spirit, mind and body by learning to practice “living still.”