Disconnect To Connect

I ran across this video while on Facebook today.  While watching it I cried and then watched it again and cried some more and then my 2 year old woke up from his nap and I held him and cried some more.  The video touched me so deeply.  I don’t want to ever be the wife, mommy, daughter, sister, friend or the stranger on the street that is so involved in technology that I miss precious moments to be fully present and to connect with the ones around me.  I am guilty of doing this from time to time and I am sure most of you reading this are as well.  It is not that the phone, iPad, computer, TV, etc are bad, it is the lack of self control that we have with them and the “choosing” technology over  being fully present.

While holding my son, crying, he looked deep into my eyes and I said, “I am sorry if I have ever chosen being on my iPhone or computer over being fully present with you. I will do better and be more present from now on.”  He just looked at me, touched a tear rolling down my face and gave me a hug.  A priceless moment I will never forget.

It is easy to get sucked into work on the computer, checking email, Facebook, TV programs, texting a friend, surfing the internet, etc and to justify why we are doing it. It is like an addiction.  I believe it serves as a distraction and it keeps us from truly connecting with the ones we love.  I am committed to doing better….are you?

I read through some of the comments posted to this video and listed some that stood out to me below:

It’s so sad to see parents texting and ignoring their children. They are missing valuable time that they will never have again!

Ya gotta stop and smell the roses. Too much being missed with heads in iPhones, iPods, Blackberries, etc.

How true – this generation is so isolated from just normal interaction -to me some of this technology is like a curse on normal living!!

The message is loud and clear….soooo true it brought tears to my eyes.

Especially for people with small children.

The gadgets are not the tragedy in this case. The tragedy is that people choose gadgets over face to face heart to heart skin to skin communication. With text you don’t have to see the smile or the frown, you don’t have to hear the hesitation in the voice or enjoy the laughter, you don’t get to put the reassuring arm on the shoulder or given the person a big hug.

Excellent reminder. Be present in the present

I hope this has touched your heart and moves you to practice self control and to choose to be fully present with the people in your life.

Be Love Give Love


About the Author


Abby Lewis has a degree in Health and Wellness and her massage therapy license. She is the author of Living Still and producer of A Breath~in Stillness. Her life’s work is to passionately encourage others to experience transformation of spirit, mind and body by learning to practice “living still.”


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