Run Your Own Race

I love to meditate, quiet my mind, be still—whatever you may want to call it. I do this so I am better able to hear the still small voice of God. Some may call this intuition. I do this as often as I can. I depend on this guidance and seek it out, but you know on those days, those hard days when you feel defeated in every area, those are the days when I need to quiet my mind more. But those are the days it is so much harder to push back all the noise in my mind so I can hear clearly.

On one particular day, a couple years ago, I was struggling intensely. You see I have a son who has been diagnosed with mild/severe autism and severe expressive and language disorder, and on this particular day, I felt like a complete failure as a mom. I was comparing my son to others. I was comparing myself to other moms. I thought for sure I was doing everything wrong. I was distracted by all the negative opinions and looks from others. My mind was filled with doubt, fear, frustration, and confusion. I couldn’t find that deep place of stillness, but I knew I needed to. So I kept pressing in—that is what I like to call it when it is harder for me to quiet my mind and connect with that still small voice—that deep intuition. My mind became quiet and then, there it was, the guidance I needed that would forever change me as a mother. I listened intently as it unfolded within me. [Read more…]

Attitude Adjustment and Autism

As my son’s birthday rolls around again this year, I am reminded of the mindset I had just two years ago when Shia turned five. I woke up heavy hearted on his fifth birthday. I remember being up before everyone, just sitting alone in the quiet with my thoughts. I found myself focusing on all the things I thought Shia lacked and how I thought he would be further along than he was by the time he turned five. At the time Shia had very limited speech. He was now five and I still had yet to hear, “I love you, Mommy.” He had never expressed his thoughts, wants, desires, or needs verbally. I desperately wanted to hear him speak. I wanted to know what was going on in his little mind. I just kept thinking about all the things Shia lacked that morning and I became very sad, to the point of tears.

Then a thought came over me, I would hate it if someone focused on all the things they thought I lacked as a woman in this world. [Read more…]

Your Family Is Your Number One Ministry

I heard it once said, “The condition of your home life is a direct reflection of your spiritual maturity.” I fully agree.

How is your relationship with your spouse and your children? What is the tone of your home?

Your family is your number one ministry. Be sure you are putting in the effort to strengthen your marriage, your relationships with your children and to develop a loving and peaceful tone in your home.

It is easier to serve other people than it is to serve the people who live under the same roof. Do you think that is what God truly wants?

We can’t push our own spouse or children to the side while we go and give all our time, energy and efforts to something or someone else…leaving nothing or very little for our own family…and expect God to really bless whatever we are doing. It might seem like it is all going good but it will eventually catch up with you. I know from personal experience and I have had the privilege of mentoring others who have felt the effects of living with misplaced priorities.

Your family needs you. My family needs me. Let’s keep our priorities balanced and in order.

God-Spouse-Children-Career

Be Love Give Love
Abby Lewis

Strife Hinders the Anointing of God

Strife hinders the power and anointing of God to freely flow and gives an open door for the enemy to work. James 3:16 KJV reads, “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” Strife is defined as angry or bitter disagreement. Other names for strife are: conflict, discord, dispute, friction, argument and quarreling. You have any of that going on in any area of your life? I heard Joyce Meyer say in one of her conferences that she could not have strife in her home or marriage and expect to see a mighty move of God in her ministry. She is very careful to keep all forms of strife out of her life. If you truly want to see a mighty move of God’s power and anointing then you must get rid of all strife. Period.

Speaking the truth in love. Ephesians 4:15

Be Love Give Love

Abby Lewis

Don’t Waste Your Suffering

When I was struggling intensely a few years ago due to some possible severe health issues, I heard on the radio a pastor say, “don’t waste your suffering. Embrace it and learn from it.” That spoke loudly to me at the time, as I felt I was resisting everything in every way. I was terrified of the what ifs and could not embrace the season at all. It is so hard in the midst of pain to count it all joy like the Bible says to huh? But God wants us to trust Him and remember that He is sovereign and in control and He causes everything to work together for the good. I did eventually surrender to it and embraced it and I learned so much about some deep rooted stuff that was still within me that needed to be worked on. God was using my pain to refine me and purify me…the refiner’s fire. I endured it for 2 years and grew so much in my faith and trust in the Lord. I am sure we can all look back at a difficult season in our lives and say I gained some wisdom and maturity in the midst of that hard time. I encourage you, if you are in the midst of one of those seasons, to embrace it, keep focused on God, persevere in the midst of it all, trust Him deeply and learn from it. He will work it all out for the good.

Be Love Give Love

Iron Sharpens Iron

I use to be a VERY controlling fearful person. Now don’t get me wrong those tendency can still pop up now and then because I walked that road for many many years. It is easy to slip back into old ways if I am not careful. That is why I think it is so vital to have people in my life that aren’t afraid to speak the truth in love to me. You know that tough love. My husband is one of those people. For years I resisted anything he would say due to my own fears and my desire to want to be in control of everything and everyone. I was prideful and thought I had it all figured out. Well that didn’t get me very far in life. I have learned the value of having people speak the truth in love to me over the years. It isn’t always easy to hear…the truth sometimes hurts, but if I remain humble and teachable then it tends to always penetrate my heart in a way that causes me to want to change or push ahead. I have also had the privilege of having close friends at different times in my life, that I truly trusted and respected, who would do the exact same thing. I am so grateful for those friends and my husband. Iron sharpens irons and I need them in my life to keep me sharp. [Read more…]

Be Strong and Courageous

God says in the Bible, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

For years fear paralyzed me. I would never move forward in life when I felt fear. I believed it was a warning that there was danger and I needed to stay were I was…where I was comfortable and safe. So that is what I did. And for awhile it seem to work but eventually I felt unfulfilled in life, in my career, in my marriage…in everything really, but I was safe and comfortable.

Something is wrong with this picture. Is the goal in life to be safe and comfortable? Is that was God is telling us to do in this verse? [Read more…]

Jesus Is About To Spit You Out

Hot, cold, lukewarm—which of these describes your relationship with Jesus?

Over the past few weeks I have been pondering a couple verses in the book of Revelation. More accurately, I have experienced deep heartache over the verses. Jesus, speaking to the church in Laodicea, says, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot; I wish that you were cold or hot. So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I am about to spit you out of My mouth” (Revelation 3:15-16).

That’s a pretty dire warning. Let’s break this down a little more. [Read more…]

I’ll Never Be Free From This Financial Mess!

At one point in my life I didn’t believe financial freedom was possible. My husband and I were $250,000 in debt including a mortgage, two school loans, another small loan, two car loans and $40,000 in credit card debt. We were struggling to make ends meet even though we were both working two jobs. No matter how much money we brought in, we could never seem to get ahead. Life was very stressful. We were drowning in debt and were exhausted from living life this way. We were in an overwhelming financial disaster and had no clue how to get out.

Can you relate?

We started praying. God could have answered our prayers by performing some sort of financial miracle, but He didn’t. And you know what? I am really glad He didn’t. Instead, He answered our prayers by revealing to us some important truths about the situation we were in, and how He was going to guide us out of it: [Read more…]

Submission…Is It Worth It?

What do you think when you hear the biblical command, “Wives submit to your husband (Colossians 3:18)?” How does it make you feel to be told that you are supposed to submit? If you have a negative reaction, you’re not alone. I spent many years of my marriage resisting this biblical command. Thankfully, God has changed my heart, and I have come to recognize that biblical submission is truly beautiful.

As I look closely at my past mindset, I can see four primary reasons I resisted submitting to my husband:

  • I thought I was more spiritually mature than my husband. I was the one spending more time with God and studying the Word. Tim wasn’t seeking the Lord like I was. It is safer if I lead, right?
  • I liked being in control and was determined to have things done my way. I thought my way always made more sense, or was better, or I would manipulate Tim into believing my way was best. I felt more peaceful if I was controlling everything and everyone. God wants me to feel peaceful, doesn’t He?
  • I wanted independence and freedom to live life and make my own decisions without having to “ask” for permission. I am an adult, and I should be able to do what makes ME happy…right? Doesn’t God want me to be happy?
  • I was fearful of submission. I didn’t trust Tim to be the leader. I had a list of all the things I needed from him, or to see flowing out of him, before I would dare submit to him. I mean, who really submits to someone who is a jerk at times or who is consumed with things other than God. God wouldn’t expect me to submit to someone like that, would He?

After many years of discontent, struggle, and distrust in my marriage, God began to reveal the truth about submission: [Read more…]